AT, I have the greatest respect for people who struggle through hard times (and I mean REALLY hard times!) and never waiver in their relationship commitments. You mentioned that some Doctors will look at this situation, and because they are clueless about what to do, they will say that the patient has psychological problems. Just as may times (or actually, more times) a less-than-committed spouse will do the same thing. It would be their excuse to bail out. Your situation is very symbolic to the "fan commitment" situation that North Texas has struggled with for decades. For years (actually decades) I've heard people make comments like "yeah, I went to North Texas but I'm not going to attend their games until they start winning some big games on a regular basis, or be accepted in the B-12 or CUSA"etc etc........or whatever. Many times when I hear this I'm thinking in my mind "well, God help your spouse if she ever did something like, put on a little weight, got a wrinkle or so, or came down with a long term illness". I don't pray much, but I'll certainly say one for your wife.....and you as well. I had a professor at North Texas once tell our class that North Texas' Latin motto translates to roughly "Keep on, Keep'in on". AT, I think you are the embodiment of that motto. Take care